How slow is to slow when dating
We have been close friends and have gone on ~5 outings in the past 2 months that could be construed as dates.
I've tried to initiate a few things but the response feels kinda lukewarm so I just back out and this is starting to feel very friend-zonely?But everybody starts to wonder at some point and time: “Soooooo, where is this going?? ” It’s nice when two people are on the same page and letting things flow, but when you’re the individual waiting in the wings for the other person to pick the “right time” or when they claim to be ready, that’s not so much fun.You’re probably in gray zone territory when the person you’ve been holding on to for months upon months keeps telling you they’re just trying to take things slow (Note: it’s gray because they’re not saying they don’t want you, but they’re also saying they don’t want you right now…).I used to be in the camp that you should have a different dating approach with a girl you want to just sleep with versus a girl with whom you want a long term relationship.I would be more cautious and take it slower with the girl I wanted to date, whereas I would rapidly and aggressively escalate with the girls I wanted to just sleep with. The end result was that I was far more successful getting the girls I wanted to sleep with to sleep with me and very poor at getting the girls I actually wanted to date.